I am Kara... And I know exactly what it feels like to be lacking confidence, and to get it right back!

I thought I had it all sorted.

Law degree. Arts degree. Masters in Gender Studies. The ‘Good Girl’. Well educated, well travelled, 42 countries and counting. Twelve plus years at the United Nations advocating for women’s empowerment around the world. Everyone telling me how “impressive” my life was.

I married my wonderful Swedish husband, love of my life. We built a life together across continents. We had two beautiful boys. I had everything I was supposed to want.

People had no idea what was really happening though. And honestly, for a long time, neither did I.

I struggled for eight years with undiagnosed health problems and sleep deprivation. Exhausted in a way no one can imagine. Constantly told to just rest. To meditate. To slow down. At one point I had even run off to Nepal and studied meditation at a Buddhist monastery (no joke!). It did not fix anything, because it became just another thing to add to my list of things to perfect. My otherwise positive confident self began to decline.

But then I made a choice. To get my confidence back, step-by-step. I knew if I wanted to build a life on my own terms, I had to rebuild that confidence myself, from the ground up.

So I treated myself like an experiment. I dove into:

• Personal development, cognitive behavioural coaching, mindset and coaching work
• I real, practical lifestyle changes – not quick fixes – that allowed me to get visible as my true confident self
• Becoming the best version of myself, for me, and for the people I love most, in particular my husband and children

I wanted to be the confident role model I knew my children needed, to show them what it looks like to actually live your best life unapologetically, not just talk about it.

And once I saw what a confident mindset could actually do, once I saw my own potential through a completely new lens, I knew I had to share it. Not just with myself. With you too.